If you feel like there are three people in your marriage, you need to stop worrying, wondering, and having pointless arguments about it.
Instead, start listening to this online “crash course” audio program. Its intensive guidance is your secret weapon in the fight for your marriage.
Yes, you can "break the spell" your partner seems to be under
Are you worried about the friendship your partner has with another woman or man? Maybe it’s a new co-worker at the office or an old flame on social media. It could be anyone. Regardless, those red flags are waving. Your partner is telling you they’re “just friends,” but their secretive behavior and the way they protect this friendship has left you in a state of worry and hurt, feeling unheard and second-best in your own marriage. You’re tired of the drama and divided loyalties.
My empowering program can help you manage this ordeal from start to finish in a sensible, dignified way. My goal is to help you motivate your spouse to end the “friendship” before it transitions into an affair or “love triangle.”
It used to take me months of office sessions to provide this information; however, this format allows me to do it in hours. This online audio-based program shares the usable insights and strategies that have worked for my other clients – no inconvenient office visits, no empty theories. Just must-know content delivered in a candid way.
Your spouse's behavior, decoded.
This one-of-a-kind program helps you understand and manage a spouse’s challenging behavior: denying or downplaying it, secrecy, illicit texting, defensiveness, acting confused about their feelings, saying you are “paranoid” etc. You will learn to handle things in such a way that your partner wants to limit or end the friendship and recommit exclusively to you. That sounds better than crying, begging or having the same pointless conversation again and again, doesn’t it?
Why should I take this program alone?
In an ideal situation, both spouses will work together, honestly, to move past an outside friendship that is causing problems in their marriage. But unfortunately, that doesn’t always happen. A person who is having an inappropriate friendship can often seem to prioritize it over the marriage, thereby making matters worse. In such cases, and although it may seem counterintuitive, many people choose to not tell their partner they’re taking this program. That’s because people who are having an overly intimate friendship often dismiss their spouse’s opinion. Therefore, when their worried spouse tries to initiate change by saying “I read this in a book” or “I learned this online,” they can become defensive and try to marginalize or deflate their spouse’s efforts. I’ve found that spouses often have better success when they simply initiate the changes they need to make on their own, with quiet confidence. Your partner needs to know these changes are coming from YOU. They need to be surprised, to some extent, by your new behavior – otherwise it just won’t make an impact on them.
Were they in love with each other? I’m not sure. If they weren’t, it was getting there. She was almost obsessed with him. She couldn’t go more than ten minutes without checking her phone, and if I said anything – look out. The fight was on and it was always my fault. I feel like I caught it just in time. The most surprising thing to me has been how ending that friendship has given us a new beginning as a couple. There’s a more mature and united feeling to “us” now. – Josh, Shelbyville, TN
Free ten-minute introduction
COST: $150 USD
*Note: Sorry, Debra’s programs and services are not available in Europe/UK.
To me, the course was like being sprung from jail. You broke me out of my victim role. – Adrian, NYC
Don't wait for things to get worse
If your spouse’s “friendship” is coming between you, and if your spouse is being manipulative in any way – even if they’re not purposely doing it to hurt you, or not fully aware they’re doing it – you must be able to successfully manage things. If you don’t, you’ll continue to live in anxiety and hurt, the distance between you will continue to grow, and this storm that has blown into your marriage will continue to wreak havoc. This program provides a lifeline that can help you navigate that storm.
Prevent Infidelity // End Their Inappropriate Friendship effectively replaces thousands of dollars in private sessions with me. The program can be streamed (repeatedly) from most devices: phone, tablet desktop. Take your sessions “on the go” as you listen on your commute. Or watch the calming background video at a coffeehouse or at home while you work through the program supplement and other supporting material. Course enrollment is for one year and includes all updates and additions to the program during that time (no-cost re-enrollments are available upon request).
An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. There is no doubt that the majority of full-scale affairs begin as inappropriate friendships. Yet as a practitioner, it frustrates me that spouses in your situation are getting advice that is either useless or works against them in the long-term (i.e. Just tell your partner that you’re worried!). You deserve better and I sincerely want you and your spouse to reconnect in a loving, lasting way. I do not fall back on this kind of easy, empty advice. I know you need more than that. Despite what is happening, it is possible to manage this situation in a way that is firm but yet respectful and fair to both of you, so that you can come out of this with a better marriage.
When I listened to the course, it was already to the point where I felt like they were married to each other and I was the annoying outsider who couldn’t take the hint to leave them alone. Talk about degrading. Worst part was, my wife knew exactly what she was doing to me. She was doing such a damn good job, though, that it took this course (hard to listen to at times, Deb, but so necessary) to make me clue in. Thank you for that and for giving such clear instruction. It’s one thing to know it’s happening and another to know what to actually do about it – you did it all. – Terry, Lakeville, IN