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Prevent Infidelity // End Their Inappropriate Friendship

If you feel like there are three people in your marriage, you need to stop worrying, wondering, and having pointless arguments about it. If that hasn’t worked yet, it isn’t going to.

Instead, start listening to this audio-based crash course. It can help you put an end to your spouse’s overly close friendship in a positive way, one that gives your marriage a new start.

Yes, you can "break the spell" your partner seems to be under

Are you worried about the friendship your partner has with another woman or man? Maybe it’s a new co-worker at the office or an old flame on social media. It could be anyone. Regardless, those red flags are waving. Your partner is telling you they’re “just friends,” but their secretive behavior and the way they protect this friendship has left you in a state of worry and hurt, feeling unheard and second-best in your own marriage. You’re tired of the drama and divided loyalties.

My empowering program can help you manage this ordeal from start to finish in a sensible, dignified way. My goal is to help you motivate your spouse to end the “friendship” before it transitions into an affair or “love triangle.”

It used to take me months of office sessions to provide this information; however, this format lets me do it in hours. This crash course contains my best guidance on this subject and shares the usable insights and strategies that have worked for my other clients – no inconvenient office visits, no empty theories. Just must-know content delivered in a candid way so that you can decide how best to handle things in your situation.

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Your spouse's behavior, decoded.

This one-of-a-kind program helps you understand and manage a spouse’s challenging behavior: denying or downplaying it, secrecy, illicit texting, defensiveness, acting confused about their feelings, saying you are “paranoid” etc. You will learn to handle things in such a way that your partner wants to limit or end the friendship and recommit exclusively to you. That sounds better than crying, begging or having the same pointless conversation again and again, doesn’t it? 

Why should I take this program alone?

In an ideal situation, both spouses will work together to move past an outside friendship that is causing problems in their marriage. But that doesn’t always happen. A person who is having an inappropriate friendship can often seem to prioritize it over the marriage, thereby making matters worse. In such cases, and although it may seem counterintuitive, many people choose to not tell their partner they’re taking this program. That’s because people who are having an overly intimate friendship often dismiss their spouse’s opinion. Therefore, when their worried spouse tries to initiate change by saying “I read this in a book” or “I learned this in a course,” they can become defensive and try to marginalize or deflate their spouse’s efforts. I’ve found that spouses may have better success when they simply initiate the changes they need to make on their own, with quiet confidence, thereby restoring peace and balance to the marital situation. 

To me, the course was like being sprung from jail. You broke me out of my victim role. – Adrian, NYC

Time is not your friend

Many people in your situation make the mistake of thinking that time will heal or solve what is happening. Yet if the friendship is still coming between you, the longer you wait to do something about it, the worse it will get. You’ll continue to live in anxiety and hurt, and the distance between you will only widen. Why wait for that to happen when you can start doing something about it right now? This crash course can be streamed (repeatedly) from most devices for the duration of your one-year enrollment (free re-enrollments of active programs are available upon request). Listen “on the go” on your commute or while you work out. Or watch the calming background video at a coffeehouse or at home while you work through the program supplement and other material. Regardless, you can expect content that isn’t just illuminating, but actually usable.

Were they in love with each other? I’m not sure. If they weren’t, it was getting there. She was almost obsessed with him. She couldn’t go more than ten minutes without checking her phone, and if I said anything – look out. The fight was on and it was always my fault. I feel like I caught it just in time. The most surprising thing to me has been how ending that friendship has given us a new beginning as a couple. There’s a more mature and united feeling to “us” now and you were instrumental in getting us there. – Josh, Shelbyville, TN

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(Sorry, courses are not currently available in Europe.)

When I listened to the course, it was already to the point where I felt like they were married to each other and I was the annoying outsider who couldn’t take the hint to leave them alone. Talk about degrading. Worst part was, my wife knew exactly what she was doing to me. She was doing such a damn good job, though, that it took this course (hard to listen to at times, Deb, but so necessary) to make me clue in. Thank you for that and for giving such clear guidance. It’s one thing to know it’s happening and another to know what to actually do about it – you did it all. – Terry, Lakeville, IN