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Overcoming Infidelity // For Betrayed Spouses

If your spouse has been unfaithful and seems unwilling to prioritize your marriage, it’s time to stop crying, arguing or pleading. It’s time to start doing things differently.

Whether it’s your starting point or your last ditch effort, this audio-based crash course provides urgent, usable and at times unconventional strategies to pull your marriage off the dead-end path an affair has put it on. 

This is your secret weapon in the fight for your marriage

If your spouse has broken your trust by having an emotional or physical affair – whether with a co-worker, a new friend or an old flame – and especially if they are being uncooperative or ambivalent, my empowering program can help you learn how to manage this ordeal from start to finish in a sensible, dignified way – yes, on your own. That’s where it often has to start.

It used to take me months of office sessions to provide this information; however, this format allows me to do it in hours. This intensive crash course contains my very best guidance on this subject and shares the usable insights and strategies that have worked for my other clients – no inconvenient office visits, no empty theories. Just must-know content delivered in a candid way so that you can decide how best to handle things in your situation. No more feeling bewildered or powerless, no more pointless arguing or spiraling into emotion. It’s time for you to have clarity and act with confidence. You can handle this, and this program – the original Marriage SOS course for betrayed spouses – can help.

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Your spouse's behavior, decoded

This program’s refreshingly straightforward content helps you understand and manage a spouse’s challenging behavior: denying or downplaying the affair, blame-shifting, defensiveness, refusing to answer questions or make reasonable changes, illicit texting, maintaining contact with the affair partner, etc. It helps you handle things in a way that is firm but yet respectful and fair, so that your marriage can grow into a more mature and committed version of itself.

The start-to-finish content in this program can help you find your way through this episode of broken trust, right from the initial discovery or suspicion of an affair to the ultimate recovery and healing phase. It can help you stop the guesswork and decide how to handle yourself, your spouse, and the situation in a clear, confident and fair way. The goal – as far away as it might seem right now – is to rebuild your marriage on the foundation of a romantic partnership.

Why should I take this program alone?

In an ideal situation, both spouses will work together to move past an episode of infidelity. But that doesn’t always happen. Some people who have had an affair will continue to be uncooperative even after it is discovered. In such cases, and although it may seem counterintuitive, many people choose to not tell their partner they’re taking a program like this. They worry that if they try to initiate change by saying “I read this in a book” or “I learned this in a course,” their partner will become defensive and dismiss or resist their efforts. That’s why this program is designed for the betrayed spouse only, and why you may wish to simply initiate changes on your own, with quiet confidence. It has to come from you. Otherwise, it means nothing.

I can’t imagine finding a more forthright or useful course to help a person get through something like this and come out with a stronger marriage. You have a personal yet sometimes forceful tone, and I needed that.  Loved the Questions & Answers you included from clients, too.  All those little ‘extras’ (the lifelines, self-assessment, What NOT to Do!!! etc.) were so helpful. – Anika, Sacramento, CA

Time is not your friend

Too many people in your situation make the mistake of thinking that time will heal or solve what is happening. Yet if the affair is still coming between you, the longer you wait to do something about it, the worse it will probably get. You’ll continue to live in anxiety and hurt, and the distance between you will only widen. Why wait for that to happen when you can start doing something about it? This course can be streamed (repeatedly) from most devices for the duration of your one-year enrollment (free re-enrollments of active programs are available upon request). Listen “on the go” on your commute or while you exercise. Or watch the calming background video at a coffeehouse or at home while you follow along in the program supplement. Make the most of your time by working through the program and your problem at the same time.

The best thing about your course was learning how to make that “shift” from me doing all the work (asking questions, buying marriage books, checking his phone) to him waking up and realizing he had to step up and fight for our marriage. He was the unfaithful one. I shouldn’t have to convince him that his behavior was wrong or beg him to work on our marriage. Like you said, he should be tripping over himself trying to win me back. I tried your strategies and they worked exactly like you said they would. They were crystal clear and direct from the get-go. Thank you for showing me how to make it about “us” instead of just about him, and for still managing to keep things positive and fair to both of us. – Seanna, Jersey City, NJ

This crash course includes:

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(Sorry, courses are not currently available in Europe.)

I read a couple popular marriage books and dragged him to counseling. Those had ZERO effect. All they did was prolong the miserable status quo of his behavior and me putting up with it, always hoping tomorrow would see a change. They worked AGAINST me. Your course cut through all the BS and double-talk and was truly the voice of clarity and reason. I probably listened to it six times – you really have been my “lifeline.” Me and my marriage are getting stronger every day. You have a hug and a nice cup of tea waiting for you if you’re ever in town. Love ya xo – Constance, Galveston, Texas