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Conquer His Midlife Crisis // Strategies for Wives

If you’re losing your husband to a midlife crisis, it’s time to stop analyzing, questioning or tiptoeing around him. It’s time to start doing things differently.

Whether it’s your starting point or your last ditch effort, this online “crash course” audio program provides urgent, usable and at times unconventional advice to pull you off the dead-end path his crisis has put you on.

Please note that while active enrollments are unaffected, our programs are moving to a new platform and are therefore unavailable for new purchase at this time. We apologize for the inconvenience!

This is your secret weapon in the fight for your marriage - because you have more power than you think you do

Men who show midlife crisis behavior act in shockingly similar ways, from self-indulgent and confused to mean-spirited and unfaithful. My empowering program can help you move through this ordeal, start to finish, with purpose and dignity. If you’re finally realizing that your husband isn’t going to “come around” on his own, this course can show you how to handle him and yourself in those ways – those sensible yet sometimes unexpected ways – that can prompt a change and rekindle his affection and commitment to you. He does not have all the power. You do have a say in all of this.

It used to take me months of office sessions to provide this information to a wife in your situation; however, this format allows me to do it in hours. This streaming online program shares the usable insights and strategies that have worked for my other clients – no inconvenient office visits, no empty theories. Just must-know content delivered in a candid way.

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Your husband's behavior, decoded

This essential program can help you regain your husband’s affection and respect. Its comprehensive content includes how to understand and manage his challenging behavior: rewriting your history, saying he’s “confused” about his feelings or not “in love” with you, sending mixed messages, acting self-indulgent or narcissistic, being secretive, engaging in activities that exclude you, having a “mean streak,” striking up a friendship with another woman or having an affair, etc. 

This can be tough behavior to understand and manage. To ensure I am always providing the most insightful and realistic content to wives in your situation, I consulted many male clients as well as my own author-husband, Don, when creating this program. I think it is essential for a woman to have that kind of perspective – from the horse’s mouth, so to speak. That honest insight, combined with my method and experience, has resulted in a truly original and usable resource for women. 

Why should I take this program alone?

In an ideal situation, spouses will work together to navigate life’s transitions, including a so-called midlife crisis. But unfortunately, that doesn’t always happen. That’s why this program is designed for you to take alone, without your husband’s knowledge. In my professional experience, I’ve found that many husbands who display midlife crisis related behaviors can be uncooperative and self-focused. When their wife tries to initiate change by saying “I read this in a book” or “I learned this online,” they can become defensive and try to marginalize or deflate their wife’s efforts. In such cases, wives may have better success when they simply initiate the changes they need to make on their own, with quiet confidence. Your husband needs to know these changes are coming from YOU. He needs to be surprised, to some extent, by your new behavior – otherwise it just won’t make an impact on him. And although much of what you’ll learn is focused on his behavior, I will suggest ways that you might change for the better, too. After all, your marriage has to be a place that both of you want to be. You need to be drawn to each other.

I saw a counselor, spent hours researching midlife crises online and tried a couple other approaches which basically resulted in him sleeping with her and me at the same time, while I felt like a doormat. I knew it wasn’t working but I didn’t know what else to do. I enrolled in your course and literally felt the anxiety and confusion and fear leave my body with every passing word that you said. You empowered and protected me. You gave me my clear-thinking and self-respect back. And it was like you scripted the whole thing – he came back, just like you said. And he came back on my terms, not just his. – Veronica, NYC

COST: $275 USD 

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*Note: Sorry, Debra’s programs and services are not available in Europe/UK.

From the first word to the last, I felt like you literally reached into the chaos of my marriage, sat me down at your table and said, “Now listen up, sweetheart, this is what you’re going to do.” I listened to the whole program twice over the span of one weekend, and then went back and completed the workbook, which to be honest was a very personal and emotional experience for me. So basically within two or three days I was a changed woman! And yes, that has made a massive change – for the better – in the way my husband treats me and the choices he is making. I truly thank you. – Cara, Troy, Alabama

Don't wait for things to get worse

If your husband is being manipulative in any way – even if he’s not purposely doing it to hurt you, or not fully aware he’s doing it – you must be able to successfully manage things. If you don’t, you’ll continue to live in anxiety and hurt, the distance between you will continue to grow, and this storm that has blown into your marriage will continue to wreak havoc. This program provides a lifeline that can help you navigate that storm.   

The “particulars” don’t matter. It doesn’t matter if he’s still living at home or has moved out. He may be close to having an affair or he may be having one. He may say “it’s over” and he wants a divorce, or he may say he’s not sure. He may be cruel or kind. Apathetic or apologetic. He may be a fitness nut or a couch potato. This program’s content is as versatile as it is relevant. 

Conquer His Midlife Crisis // Strategies for Wives effectively replaces thousands of dollars in private sessions with me. The program can be streamed (repeatedly) from most devices: phone, tablet desktop. Take your sessions “on the go” as you listen on your commute. Or watch the calming background video at a coffeehouse or at home while you work through the program supplement and other supporting material. 

As a practitioner (and wife!), it frustrates me that so many women are getting useless, patronizing, and counterproductive advice during this crisis period in their marriage. You deserve better and I truly want you and your husband to reconnect in a lasting way. No, I won’t always tell you what you want to hear – but I will always tell you what you need to hear. Despite what is happening, it is possible to manage this situation in a way that is firm but yet respectful and fair to both of you, so that you can come out of this with a stronger marriage.

Deb, you’re the snake-charmer of midlife men. You knew every move my husband was making and you showed me how to manage him so he couldn’t do any more damage to me or to our marriage. How do I thank the person who showed me how to make my husband fall in love with me all over again? Listening to the course was such a pleasant experience, too. It was in-depth and indispensable: you have a very take-charge, deliberate approach. For me, it was exactly what I needed to stop my emotional flailing and to assertively and strategically “conquer” his behavior. – Toni, Gainsville, Florida