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Conquer His Midlife Crisis // Strategies for Wives

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If you’re losing your husband to a midlife crisis, it’s time to stop analyzing, questioning or tiptoeing around him. It’s time to start doing things differently.

Whether it’s your starting point or your last ditch effort, this  audio-based crash course provides urgent, usable and at times unconventional strategies to win him back without losing yourself in the process.

This is your secret weapon in the fight for your marriage - because you have more power than you think you do

Men who show midlife crisis behavior can act in shockingly similar ways, from self-indulgent and confused to mean-spirited and unfaithful. My empowering program can help you move through this ordeal, start to finish, with purpose and dignity. If you’re finally realizing that your husband isn’t going to “come around” on his own, this course can show you how to handle him and yourself in those ways that can prompt a change and rekindle his affection and commitment to you. He does not have all the power. You do have a say in all of this.

It used to take me months of office sessions to provide this information; however, this format allows me to do it in hours. This intensive crash course contains my very best guidance on this subject and shares the usable insights and strategies that have worked for my other clients – no inconvenient office visits, no empty theories. Just must-know content delivered in a candid way so that you can decide how best to handle things in your situation. No more feeling bewildered or powerless, no more pointless arguing or spiraling into emotion. It’s time for you to have clarity and act with confidence. You can handle this, and this program – the original Marriage SOS course for wives facing a husband’s midlife crisis – can help.

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Your husband's behavior, decoded

This essential program can help you regain your husband’s affection and respect. Its comprehensive content includes how to understand and manage his challenging behavior: rewriting your history, saying he’s “confused” about his feelings or not “in love” with you, sending mixed messages, acting self-indulgent or narcissistic, being secretive, engaging in activities that exclude you, having a “mean streak,” striking up a friendship with another woman or having an affair, etc. 

This can be tough behavior to understand and manage. To ensure that I am always providing the most insightful and realistic content to wives in your situation, I consulted many male clients as well as my own author-husband, Don, when creating this program. I think it is essential for a woman to have that kind of perspective. That honest insight, combined with my method and experience, has resulted in a highly effective resource for women. 

Why should I take this program alone?

In an ideal situation, spouses will work together to navigate life’s transitions, including a so-called midlife crisis. But that doesn’t always happen. That’s why this program is designed for you to take alone. People who display midlife crisis related behaviors can be uncooperative and self-focused – when their partner tries to initiate change by saying “I read this in a book” or “I learned this in a course,” they can become defensive and dismiss or deflate their partner’s efforts. That’s why you may wish to simply initiate changes on your own, with quiet confidence. It has to come from you. Otherwise, it means nothing.

Yet while much of what you’ll learn is focused on a husband’s behavior, I will suggest ways that you might change for the better, too. You need to be emotionally and physically drawn to each other. 

I saw a counselor, spent hours researching midlife crises online and tried a couple other approaches which basically resulted in him sleeping with her and me at the same time, while I felt like a doormat. I knew it wasn’t working but I didn’t know what else to do. I enrolled in your course and literally felt the anxiety and confusion and fear leave my body with every passing word that you said. You empowered and protected me. You gave me my clear-thinking and self-respect back. And it was like you scripted the whole thing – he came back on my terms, not just his. – Veronica, NYC

Time is not your friend

Too many women in your situation make the mistake of thinking that time will heal or solve what is happening. Yet if your husband’s midlife crisis is still coming between you, the longer you wait to do something about it, the worse it will probably get. You will continue to live in anxiety and hurt, and the distance between you will only grow. Why wait for that to happen when you can start doing something about it right now?  This crash course can be streamed (repeatedly) from most devices for the duration of your one-year enrollment (free re-enrollments of active programs are available upon request). Listen “on the go” on your commute or while you exercise. Or watch the calming background video at a coffeehouse or at home while you follow along in the program supplement. Make the most of your time by working through the program and your problem at the same time.

The “particulars” don’t matter. It doesn’t matter if he’s still living at home or has moved out. He may be close to having an affair or he may be having one. He may say “it’s over” and he wants a divorce, or he may say he’s not sure. He may be mean-spirited or kind, apathetic or apologetic. He may be a fitness nut or a couch potato. Regardless, this program’s content is versatile enough to apply to almost any situation. 

From the first word to the last, I felt like you literally reached into the chaos of my marriage, sat me down at your table and said, “Now listen up, sweetheart, this is what you’re going to do.” I listened to the whole program twice over the span of one weekend, and then went back and completed the workbook, which to be honest was a very personal and emotional experience for me. So basically within two or three days I was a changed woman! And yes, that has made a massive change – for the better – in the way my husband treats me and the choices he is making. I truly thank you. – Cara, Troy, Alabama

This crash course includes:

Listen to the audio introduction:

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(Sorry, courses are not currently available in Europe.)

Deb, you’re the snake-charmer of midlife men. You knew every move my husband was making and you showed me how to manage him so he couldn’t do any more damage to me or to our marriage. How do I thank the person who showed me how to make my husband fall in love with me all over again? Listening to the course was such a pleasant experience, too. It was in-depth and indispensable: you have a very take-charge, deliberate approach. For me, it was exactly what I needed to stop my emotional flailing and to assertively and strategically manage his behavior. – Toni, Gainsville, Florida