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Conquer His Midlife Crisis // Strategies For Wives

An Online “Crash Course” Available in the USA & Canada

Conquer his midlife crisis - strategies for wives

Stop panicking. Stop crying. Stop questioning, analyzing or tiptoeing around him. If you’re losing your husband to a midlife crisis, start listening now, from any device, to my online audio/multimedia crash course. It’s your secret weapon in the fight for your marriage.

Men who show midlife crisis behavior act in shockingly similar ways, from self-indulgent and confused to mean-spirited and unfaithful  (more on this below).

I’ll give you usable insights and precise, proactive strategies to manage these behaviors and turn things around as quickly as possible. So don’t just “hope for the best.” Too many women have regretted that kind of passivity, especially with so much at stake. Instead, use this course’s sensible yet unconventional direction to regain his deep love, devotion and desire.

This course can change the course of your marriage. After many years as a marriage author and conflict specialist, I am confident in my no-nonsense method.

That’s why you’ll find the program’s audio intro below. It walks you through the specifics of what this course covers – you’ll see it is indispensable. You’ll also find testimonials from real course-takers on this page.

Listen to the audio anytime, anywhere. Also includes video, print materials and other supplementary content.

Take your “sessions” with me on the go as you listen in the car from your mobile phone. Or watch the calming video at a coffeehouse or at home as you listen and work your way through the workbook and other supporting material.

This course contains clear, confident strategies for women who are serious about prompting a change in their marriage.

As a practitioner (and wife!), it frustrates me that so many women are getting useless, patronizing and counterproductive advice during this crisis period in their marriage. You deserve better and I sincerely want you and your husband to reconnect in a lasting way.

I saw a counselor, spent hours researching midlife crises online and tried a couple other approaches that basically resulted in him sleeping with her and me at the same time, while I felt like a doormat. I knew it wasn’t working but I didn’t know what else to do. I enrolled in your course and literally felt the anxiety and confusion and fear leave my body with every passing word that you said. You empowered and protected me. You gave me my clear-thinking and self-respect back. And it was like you scripted the whole thing – he came back, just like you said. And he came back on my terms, not just his. – Veronica, NYC

Deb, your program was my refuge, my guiding light, my everyday reminder that I could get through this. I listened daily for 2 or 3 weeks, re-playing certain parts or listening to the new Q&A’s you’d post. Your advice (and yes, sometimes your “tough love”) helped me regain his love and respect. After hearing nothing but “I don’t know what I want” for so long from him, it is beyond wonderful to feel WANTED by him again. I will always be grateful to you. – Suyin, Vancouver, BC



Contains over 6 hours of intensive audio guidance plus a variety of multimedia supporting content (video, workbook and print materials, Q&A’s, etc.). COST: $275.00 USD  ** Available only in the United States & Canada **

This empowering, effective program is worth thousands of dollars in private sessions with leading marriage author and conflict specialist Debra Macleod, B.A., LL.B. It can be streamed from any device: cell phone, computer, tablet. Many marriages end in divorce because people either hesitate to get help or don’t know what to do when their spouse won’t participate; however, with this online course, getting top-tier help has never been more accessible, convenient or affordable. Course enrollment is for a one-year period.

From the first word to the last, I felt like you literally reached into the chaos of my marriage, sat me down at your table and said, “Now listen up, sweetheart, this is what you’re going to do.” I listened to the whole program twice over the span of one weekend, and then went back and completed the workbook, which to be honest was a very personal and emotional experience for me. So basically within two or three days I was a changed woman! And yes, that has made a massive change – for the better – in the way my husband treats me and the choices he is making. I truly thank you. – Cara, Troy, Alabama

When His Midlife Crisis Becomes a Marriage Crisis

No more endlessly analyzing your husband or guessing what to do. No more feeling powerless or afraid. This assertive, trusted course decodes his words and behavior, and teaches you how to handle him, yourself, and the situation with clarity and purpose. That’s what it will take to reclaim a marriage that insulates you from pain instead of inflicting pain. And it’s information you can’t go another day without knowing.

Right now, you may be shocked by your husband’s self-focus and self-indulgence. You may be baffled by his new interests or sudden obsession with fitness, or fearful of his new “friendships” (that means affairs!) with younger women. You may be hearing things like, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you,” or “I don’t know what I want.” You may be hurt by his words and behavior as they become increasingly confusing, cold or even cruel.

He may be re-writing your history, only remembering the bad times and blaming you for his unhappiness or unfulfilled dreams. Or he may be saying how wonderful you are and how he doesn’t mean to hurt you (even though that’s exactly what he’s doing!). He may be withdrawing, sending mixed messages, acting entitled and living as though the world revolves around him. He may be retreating into introspection or self-pity. He may be moody, impulsive, egocentric, untrustworthy or unfaithful.

This crash course should be required listening at every married woman’s 40th birthday party. It is a rite of passage into middle age.  Had I listened to this BEFORE it all blew up, I could have avoided months of emotional anguish and uncertainty. By the way, your “What NOT To Do!!!” tip sheet is my new screensaver. Love it. – Denise, Seattle, WA

As a result of his baffling, hurtful words and actions, your world is sent into a tailspin. Your every thought, feeling and move revolves around what he might be thinking, feeling or doing. You live in a chronic state of uncertainty and hurt. You tiptoe around his emotions, demands or sensitivities. You trudge through each day, trying to get through one of the worst times of your life. Yet it sometimes seems like your husband is having the time of his life, despite the drama and turmoil. It’s all about him and his search for happiness.

This set of behaviors, when seen in middle-aged or older men, is generally described by the term “midlife crisis.” And if you’ve had enough of it, this crash course can help you prompt a big change.

The insights and strategies in this course apply to many different situations and can be used in a variety of ways.

For example, your husband may still be living at home or he may have moved out. He may be close to having an affair or he may already be having one. He may say “it’s over” and he wants a divorce or he may say he’s “not sure.” He may be cruel or kind. Apathetic or apologetic. He may be a fitness nut or a couch potato. When it comes to helping you understand and cope with his behavior, this program’s content is as versatile as it is relevant. It also prepares you for the various paths this crisis can take so you’re ready for anything and know how to respond.

Because one thing is for sure – waiting it out, hoping for the best and providing “wifely support” as your husband continues to disrespect you won’t work. Yes, that’s the easy approach. That’s why so many counselors, coaches and other advisers recommend it; however, that kind of passive approach is likely to backfire. That’s something that too many women, faced with divorce at this time in their life, have learned the hard way.

My goal is to provide you with a practical alternative that strikes that delicate balance between respecting your husband and respecting yourself, while at same time re-awakening his interest in you.

Deb, you’re the snake-charmer of midlife men. You knew every move my husband was making and you showed me how to manage him so he couldn’t do any more damage to me or to our marriage. How do I thank the person who showed me how to make my husband fall in love with me all over again? Listening to the course was such a pleasant experience, too.  It was in-depth and indispensable: you have a very take-charge, deliberate approach. For me, it was exactly what I needed to stop my emotional flailing and to assertively and strategically “conquer” his behavior. – Toni, Gainsville, Florida

You are the voice that every wife who is going through this gut-churning, head-spinning, soul-sucking ordeal needs to hear in her ear.  There were times in this program that I wanted to get on a plane, show up at your office and wrap my arms around you.  Your insight and guidance were my lifeline.  They pulled me out of the desperation and despair, and back to a place of confidence and certainty. I have him back and I didn’t have to sacrifice my dignity to do it. – Becka, Houston, TX

I was doing every thing wrong. I was so consumed with the panic and desperation and fear and humiliation. I probably would’ve let those drive me into an early grave if I hadn’t found this course. Maybe I knew, deep down, that so much of what he was doing was manipulation but I was too afraid to do anything about it. That fear only doubled when he moved in with “her.” Thank you for taking me by the hand and walking me into the clear light of what was happening. Thank you for giving me my power back. Thank you for saving my marriage and my dignity. I feel authentic love from him and for the first time in years we are excited about continuing the journey of our life together. – Tama, Holland, Michigan

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