An Online “Crash Course” Available in the USA & Canada
If your wife’s midlife behavior is affecting your marriage, stop arguing, asking her questions or tiptoeing around her. Start listening now, from any device, to my online audio/multimedia crash course. It’s your secret weapon in the fight for your marriage – powerful, proven and private.
It used to take me months of office sessions to help a man in your situation understand what’s happening and figure out what to do about it. Now I can do that for you in a matter of hours. Why? Because I get to do all the talking! You need to understand what your wife is going through and your part in that; however, you also need to know what to do if you feel you aren’t being treated fairly or honestly.
I’ll tell you what has and what hasn’t worked for men in your situation. I’ll give you precise suggestions: “do’s” and “don’ts” to turn things around and reconnect. So don’t spend another day drifting away from the woman you love. Unfortunately, too many men have a tendency to sit back and assume “it’ll pass.” And unfortunately, too many learn the hard way that it doesn’t always pass. A more proactive, involved approach may be wiser, especially when you consider what is at stake.
This course can change the course of your marriage. After many years as a marriage author and conflict specialist, I am confident in my no-nonsense method.
That’s why you’ll find the program’s audio intro below. You don’t have time for guesswork. You’ll also find testimonials from real course-takers on this page. These are men just like you, who were able to make things better.
Take your “sessions” with me on the go as you listen in the car from your mobile phone. Or watch the calming video at a coffeehouse or at home as you listen and work your way through the workbook and other supporting material.
There is no faster or more effective way to put my insights and strategies to work for you. As a practitioner (and wife!), it frustrates me that it’s so difficult for men to find candid yet balanced information when faced with this issue. You deserve better and I sincerely want you and your wife to reconnect in a loving, lasting way.
No, I wasn’t perfect but I always supported my wife and I KNOW that I was a good husband. I was there for her and our kids for 20 years of marriage. But when she started to say that she “loved me but wasn’t in love with me,” and she started going out with men (including the one she eventually had an affair with) where was the help I needed to deal with that? All the stuff I read about women and midlife basically held women out as misunderstood or mistreated by their husbands. That isn’t always true. If anything, it was the other way around in my marriage. I cannot thank you enough for being honest about what goes through the minds of some women and how a “good guy” should handle it. – Jeffrey, Orlando, FL
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This comprehensive yet concise program is worth thousands of dollars in private sessions with leading marriage author and conflict specialist Debra Macleod, B.A., LL.B. It can be streamed from any device: cell phone, computer, tablet. Many marriages end in divorce because people either hesitate to get help or don’t know what to do when their spouse won’t participate; however, with this online course, getting top-tier help has never been more accessible, convenient or affordable. Course enrollment is for a one-year period, with complimentary (no cost) re-enrollments, upon request, for the lifetime of the course.
Equal parts professional and “pull your head out of your ass.” I’m not sure many pros could pull that off, but you managed. – William, San Antonio, TX
I prefer your matter-of-fact experience as a couples mediator and your “take it or leave it” advice . You were unbiased but not afraid to call a spade a spade. Thank you for providing a desperately-needed resource for men. – Maxwell, Dodge City, KS
When Her Midlife Crisis Becomes a Marriage Crisis
Right now, your wife may be rewriting your history and saying things like, “I don’t know if I was ever happy” or “You were never there for me,” despite all you have done for her. Maybe she’s blaming you for her unfulfilled dreams or for the problems in the marriage. Maybe she’s withdrawn, quick to anger or cry, or immersing herself in new interests and ideas. Maybe she’s secretive and introspective, saying she “needs space.” Maybe she’s sending mixed messages, like “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.”
She may seem confused about her feelings for you and uncertain about her commitment level to the marriage. She may be critical and cold one day, loving and warm the next. She may be socializing more or having a “friendship” with another man, saying things like “he just gets me!” You may have suspicions – whether confirmed or not – that she is having an affair; however, if you ask her about it, you’re met with accusations that you’re “paranoid” or “controlling.” You’ve never seen her behave in such self-indulgent, self-focused ways. You miss the way she was and the way you were as a couple.
This set of behaviors, when seen in middle-aged (30 to 60 year old) women, is generally described by the term “midlife crisis.” What you’re seeing may be a variation of this. Regardless, this crash course can help you get a handle on what’s happening.
My wife was withdrawing, delving into self-help, saying I never listened to her – I did, but probably not enough. She wrote me a list called “25 Complaints Over 25 Years.” Everything was my fault and look out if I said that I didn’t feel appreciated or that I didn’t like the way I was expected to say nothing no matter what she did, including sending 100+ texts a day to another guy. I love my wife very much but that isn’t right. I never said I was perfect. I was busy. I was never a jerk. Anyway, I definitely came at things with more confidence and clarity after my “sessions” with you (that is, my workouts where I listened to the course). Greatly appreciated. – Nathan, Elko, NV
Part “midlife wife survival guide” and part powerful marriage course, you’ll wonder how you managed to get by this long without it. So get started, because you and your wife deserve to rediscover each other and your marriage! That can happen, but you need to see things from a different perspective. You also need an inventory of usable insights and practical strategies you can draw upon to do your part and make things better.
No more pointless arguments or endlessly analyzing your wife. No more feeling powerless, trying to ignore the sense that what’s happening isn’t fair to you. This world-recognized course decodes her words and behavior, and teaches you how to handle things with clarity and purpose. This is information you can’t go another day without knowing. As a practitioner with a reputation for “telling it like it is,” I’ll tell you what you may need to hear, even if it isn’t always what you want to hear.
The biggest skill this course taught me was how to knowing what was on ME, and what was on HER. And yes, I promise to use my powers for good, not evil! – Conor, Vancouver, BC
I learned more about women in this five-hour course than I did in seventeen years of marriage. There’s no just beating around the bush with you, is there? – Kurt, Malibu, CA
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