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Conquer Her Midlife Crisis // Strategies For Husbands

If your wife’s midlife behavior is affecting your marriage, stop arguing, asking her questions or tiptoeing around her. Start listening now to this online “crash course.” Its intensive guidance is your secret weapon in the fight for your marriage – positive, powerful, private.

Do you need a new perspective and some fresh ideas to manage what's happening?

I’ll help you understand what your wife may be going through and I’ll help you better understand your own role in things. I’ll tell you what other men have faced and what behaviors on their part tended to improve (and worsen) matters. Finally, I’ll give you precise suggestions: “do’s” and “don’ts” to help you turn things around and reconnect.

It used to take me months of office sessions to provide this information; however, this online program format allows me to do it in hours. Listen from your mobile, tablet or desktop. Whatever you choose, these no-nonsense Marriage SOS sessions bypass the inconvenient office visits and empty theories to deliver only must-know content .

So don’t spend another day drifting away from the woman you love. Unfortunately, too many men refuse to take steps to improve their own situation or try something new – why not lead the way in your marriage? Some fresh insight and ideas can make all the difference.

This course can change the course of your marriage. After many years as a marriage author and conflict specialist, I am confident in my no-nonsense method.

That’s why you’ll find the program’s audio intro below. You don’t have time for guesswork. You’ll also find testimonials from real course-takers on this page. These are men just like you, who were able to make things better.

There is no faster or more effective way to put my insights and strategies to work for you. As a practitioner (and wife!), it frustrates me that it’s so difficult for men to find candid yet balanced information when faced with this issue. You deserve better and I sincerely want you and your wife to reconnect in a loving, lasting way.

Put your gadgets to good use

Take your “sessions” with me on the go as you listen in the car from your mobile phone.  Or watch the calming video at a coffeehouse or at home as you listen and work your way through the workbook and other supporting material.
Equal parts professional and “pull your head out of your ass.” I’m not sure many pros could pull that off, but you managed. – William, San Antonio, TX

Contents: 4.5 hours of intensive and engaging core audio, plus multimedia supporting content (audio with calming video, three-part printable workbook, Marriage Lifelines, What NOT To Do, Q&A clips, etc.).   $320.00 USD 

** Sorry, this program is being updated and is currently unavailable for purchase – current enrollments are not affected. Please check back soon!

Debra Macleod, B.A., LL.B. is a couples mediator turned marriage-saving specialist. Her innovative, instantly-accessible programs are perfect for no-nonsense people who want real-world relationship help.

Why this crash course works so well...

This online service effectively replaces thousands of dollars in private sessions with me. The course can be streamed (repeatedly) from most devices: phone, tablet desktop. Course enrollment is for one year and includes all updates and additions to the program during that time (no-cost re-enrollments available upon request).

This program is designed for you to take alone, without your wife. Why? Because if you’re considering a course like this, it’s likely that you and she aren’t on the same page right now anyway.  Instead of spinning your wheels and only digging deeper into conflict, why not see whether you can move things forward on your own? You may find that looking at things from a different perspective and gaining a few new practical strategies can give you the push you need as a couple to get going again.

I prefer your matter-of-fact experience as a couples mediator and your “take it or leave it” advice .  You were unbiased but not afraid to call a spade a spade.  Thank you for providing a desperately-needed resource for men. – Maxwell, Dodge City, KS
When Her Midlife Crisis Becomes a Marriage Crisis

Right now, your wife may be rewriting your history and saying things like, “I don’t know if I was ever happy” or “You were never there for me.” Maybe she seems to be blaming you for her unfulfilled dreams or for the problems in the marriage. Maybe she’s withdrawn, quick to anger or cry, or immersing herself in new interests and ideas. Maybe she’s secretive and introspective, saying she “needs space.” Maybe she’s sending mixed messages, like “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.”

She may seem confused about her feelings for you and uncertain about her commitment level to the marriage. She may be critical and cold one day, loving and warm the next. She may be socializing more or having a “friendship” with another man, one that she seems very protective and perhaps secretive about. It may or may not have escalated into an affair.  She seems to be more self-indulgent and self-focused these days. You miss the way she was and the way you were as a couple.

This set of behaviors, when seen in middle-aged (30 to 60 year old) women, is generally described by the somewhat unflattering term “midlife crisis.” Both men and women, husbands and wives, can show this behavior and it can be diverse: what you’re seeing may be a variation of what you’ve read here. Regardless, this crash course can give you an inventory of fresh insights and usable strategies to help your wife, yourself and your marriage through this.

As you heard in the audio intro, we’ll begin by taking a good, honest look at your own behavior. After that, we’ll look at situations that have escalated and where a wife’s behavior is of primary concern: this includes the kinds of behavior mentioned above, from self-focus to infidelity and everything in between. How do you handle this? This course gives you the kind of guidance that has worked for my other clients: it isn’t about theory, it’s about practical ideas and understanding.

My wife was withdrawing, delving into self-help, saying I never listened to her – I did, but probably not enough.  She wrote me a list called “25 Complaints Over 25 Years.”  Everything was my fault and look out if I said that I didn’t feel appreciated or that I didn’t like the way I was expected to say nothing no matter what she did, including sending 100+ texts a day to another guy.  I love my wife very much but that isn’t right.  I never said I was perfect.  I was busy.  I was never a jerk.  Anyway, I definitely came at things with more confidence and clarity after my “sessions” with you (that is, my workouts where I listened to the course).  Greatly appreciated. – Nathan, Elko, NV

Part “midlife wife survival guide” and part powerful marriage course, you’ll wonder how you managed to get by this long without it. So get started, because you and your wife deserve to rediscover each other and your marriage!

No more pointless arguments or endlessly analyzing your wife. No more feeling powerless, trying to ignore the sense that what’s happening isn’t fair to you. This practical course helps you decode her words and behavior, and teaches you how to handle things with clarity and purpose. This is information you can’t go another day without knowing. As a practitioner with a reputation for “telling it like it is,” I’ll tell you what you may need to hear, even if it isn’t always what you want to hear.

The biggest skill this course taught me was how to knowing what was on ME, and what was on HER. And yes, I promise to use my powers for good, not evil! – Conor, Vancouver, BC
I learned more about women in this five-hour course than I did in seventeen years of marriage. There’s no just beating around the bush with you, is there? – Kurt, Malibu, CA

Don't wait any longer to save your marriage

Many marriage problems get worse, or lead to divorce, because people hesitate to get help, are too passive, or don’t know what to do when they and their spouse are disconnected. This online course is perfect for men who are looking for a more proactive, positive way to deal with the challenges they are facing in their marriage.