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Extramarital Friendships

“My Husband Won’t Stop Texting a Female Co-Worker”

husband texting in secret

You’ve been looking forward to it all week – crashing on the couch with your husband and binge-watching the new show on Netflix.  You set out a big bowl of popcorn, snuggle up next to him and then – bing! – his phone goes off.  He grabs it quickly (it’s never more than an arm’s… Read More

No, They’re Not “Just Friends.” They’re Having an Affair.

man and woman flirting

So, I’m just wondering… whatever happened to trusting one’s own gut? Is it unfashionable to do so? Politically incorrect? Fattening? There must be a reason that so many people have stopped doing it, especially when it comes to their own relationships. As a marriage conflict specialist who works with spouses trying to overcome infidelity and… Read More

Is A “Partner Predator” Circling Your Spouse?

woman texting husband irritated

You’re having a nice coffee date with your wife when her phone chimes with a new text.  She reads it, giggles, and starts texting this other person back.  You know who it is.  It’s him.  It’s always him.  Your neighbor, that overly friendly guy that you just know is a player.  The one who sits… Read More

How Opposite-Sex Friendships Can Destroy Your Marriage

three people sitting, two secretly holding hands

While there are a lot of ways to screw up a marriage, spouses who have close opposite-sex friendships are toying with one of the riskiest and most short-sighted behaviors that commonly lead to infidelity and ultimately divorce. Many of my consults begin with a client saying something like this: “My husband is constantly texting a… Read More

Is Your Spouse’s Opposite-Sex Friendship an Emotional Affair?

man texting, wife upset

Some things are built for two. Teeter-totters. Loveseats. The Porsche Boxster. And yes, marriage. Say what you like about men and women being able to be “just friends.” If there’s no attraction between them, it’s true enough. But if there is some level of attraction between them, and if one or both are married, platonic friendship is both impossible… Read More