Marriage Counseling for Affairs: Can it Make a Bad Situation Worse?

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It happens every day: a spouse discovers their husband or wife is having an affair and starts Googling marriage counselors. They assume that if they can get (or persuade, or threaten, or force) their unfaithful spouse to attend couples counseling, everything will be better. They assume their partner will become more honest, cooperative, accountable, and … Read more

These Are the Signs Your Spouse is Having a Texting Affair

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When we talk about affairs, we often categorize them as emotional, physical, or both. That’s helpful to some extent. Yet nowadays, there’s another category that we can loosely call the texting affair. An oversimplified scenario goes like this: Your spouse strikes up an opposite-sex friendship with a person at work, spin or yoga class, the … Read more

10 Things Your Cheating Spouse Probably Doesn’t Want You to Know

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Finding out that your husband or wife has been unfaithful isn’t just a time of profound heartbreak and shock, it’s also a time of intense confusion.  There are so many unanswered questions and so many overwhelming emotions. Most unfaithful partners are deeply committed to saving their marriage.  They are honest, forthcoming with information and willing … Read more

Affairs in the Digital Age – “Is it okay to look at my spouse’s phone?”

“Is it okay to look at my spouse’s phone?”  Not only is that a loaded question, it’s an oversimplified one.  The answer depends on many things, including a couple’s past and current relationship issues, their unique marriage style, as well as the motivation and intention behind the wish to look at a spouse’s phone. Despite … Read more

Do You Need to Forgive Your Spouse For Having An Affair?

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I’ll let you in on a little secret.  Couples who are struggling to overcome infidelity can be a challenge for practitioners to work with.  They are intensely emotional.  They may rage, cry, be angrily defensive or withdrawn. Their behavior and progress can be unpredictable. On top of it, some of them expect “instant results.”  If … Read more