If you’ve ever heard your husband or wife say, “I want a divorce,” or “we should just get a divorce” or even “maybe we should try a separation,” then you know how...Read More
Marriage Counseling for Affairs: Making a Bad Situation Even Worse

It happens every day: a spouse discovers their husband or wife is having an affair and starts Googling marriage counselors. They assume that if they can get (or persuade, or...Read More
My Husband “Can’t Decide” Between Me and His Mistress

I hear this kind of thing all the time: “We’ve been married for fifteen years, but I recently discovered my husband is having an affair with our daughter’s swim coach. He...Read More
10 Signs Your Husband is Having a Midlife Crisis

Have you ever thought to yourself, “Is my husband having a midlife crisis?” Maybe his behavior has changed so suddenly, so dramatically, that you’re wondering whether...Read More
10 Signs Your Wife is Having a Midlife Crisis

Have you ever thought to yourself, “I wonder if my wife is having some kind of midlife crisis?” Maybe her behavior has suddenly changed and she’s acting in...Read More
How Opposite-Sex Friendships Can Destroy Your Marriage

While there are a lot of ways to screw up a marriage, spouses who have close opposite-sex friendships are toying with one of the riskiest and most short-sighted behaviors that...Read More
Should I Contact My Spouse’s Affair Partner?

It’s something I hear all the time from my clients: “My spouse is having (or had) an affair. Should I contact the Other Man / Other Woman?” My short answer is this:...Read More
The Minimalist Marriage: Read an Excerpt

Read the introduction and an excerpt from The Minimalist Marriage: How to Have Less Drama and More Happiness in Your Relationship Buy now on Amazon WELCOME In case you haven’t...Read More
Are You a Helicopter Spouse?

I like to think I’m a fairly easy person to live with. But like anybody, I can slip into bad habits. It happened the other night. I was trying to finish some client files...Read More
Do You Need to Forgive Your Spouse For Having An Affair?

I’ll let you in on a little secret. Couples who are struggling to overcome infidelity can be a challenge for practitioners to work with. They are intensely emotional. They...Read More