When most people imagine a scenario involving a “cheating spouse” being caught having an emotional or sexual affair, they assume said cheating spouse will react...Read More
“My Husband / Wife Won’t Fight for Me. How Can I Make Them Care?”

I hear it all the time from a hurting spouse: “My husband was the one who cheated, so why isn’t he fighting for me? Why do I have to convince him that what he did was...Read More
Did Your Marriage Fall Prey to a Spouse Poacher?

When dealing with infidelity, it’s useful to know who initiated the extramarital relationship. Was it the unfaithful spouse or the other woman/other man? Here, I want to...Read More
When His Midlife Crisis turns into Marital Terrorism

Ah, the stereotypical male midlife crisis – it summons images of a middle-aged man cruising around town in his red convertible, trying to recapture the feeling of lost youth. ...Read More
A Checklist of Factors that Contribute to Cheating – How Many Does Your Relationship Have?

Over my years working with spouses who are facing an infidelity in their marriage, I’ve come to realize that there are a number of factors that are common to many, if not most,...Read More
“How Do I Know When it’s Time to Give Up?” (And the Power of Letting Go)

Here’s a question I’ve been asked more than once: How do I know when it’s time to give up and stop trying to save my marriage? That’s a tough question, because the answer...Read More
Affair Recovery – “What If My Unfaithful Spouse Shows No Remorse?”

If you’re facing a spouse’s affair or indiscretion, you may be just as shocked by your husband or wife’s apparent lack of remorse over the whole thing as you are...Read More
“My Husband Won’t Stop Texting a Female Co-Worker”

You’ve been looking forward to it all week – crashing on the couch with your husband and binge-watching the new show on Netflix. You set out a big bowl of popcorn, snuggle...Read More
Date Night – Things That Go Bump in the Night

Picture this. It’s Friday night, the end of a long work week, and you and your sweetheart have a date night planned at home. You’ve found a nice bottle of wine and you’ve...Read More
How to Change the Tone of Your Marriage

As someone who specializes in marital communication and interactions, I often talk to people about how important voice tone is in terms of a marriage’s overall tone. But I...Read More