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10 Signs Your Wife is Having a Midlife Crisis

Have you ever thought to yourself, “I wonder if my wife is having some kind of midlife crisis?”  Maybe her behavior has suddenly changed and she’s acting in uncharacteristic or dramatically different ways.

If so, here’s a quick checklist to run through. It’s by no means definitive or exhaustive, but if you find yourself saying “yes” more than “no,” then there’s a good chance your marriage is about to get a bit rockier.

1. She’s between 30 and 55 years of age.

2. She is withdrawing from the marriage. She may also be withdrawing from the family unit, even her own children.  Yet at the same time, she may be socializing more with other people.

3. She is re-writing your history. No matter how many times you to try remind her of the good times, she only remembers the bad.  She may say things like, “I don’t know if I’ve ever been happy…maybe we got married for the wrong reasons,” or something along those lines.

4. She blames you for any and all problems in the marriage, and maybe even for her own unhappiness.

5. She is immersing herself in new ideas, interests and lifestyle choices, perhaps reading more self-help books or learning about new spiritual systems.

6. She’s less interested in intimacy. Despite this, she is taking steps to improve her appearance.  This may mean working out more or even getting plastic surgery.

7. She is self-indulgent and self-focused. More and more, she seems to only think of herself and her own happiness. She may spend more time and more money on herself.

8. She is more critical of you. She is quick to anger and lose her patience with you and even her kids.

9. She is more secretive, particularly with her phone. She may change her passwords and delete her text history, often accusing you of being “paranoid” or “controlling” if you express concern about this.  This often happens at the same time that she strikes up a very close friendship with a male friend, someone she says she has a special bond with.

10. She expresses confusion about her feelings for you or uncertainty about her commitment to the marriage. She may say things like, “I love you but I’m not in love with you,” or “I don’t know what I want…I need space to figure it out.”  Again, this behavior often accompanies an increasingly intimate friendship with another man, or an outright affair.

Of course, this is just a general checklist of behaviors.  Yet if you find that more than six or seven seem relevant, it’s likely that you’re about to have a serious problem on your hands, if you don’t already.  The sooner you can handle what’s happening with clarity and confidence, the better.

My on-demand audio/video crash course, Conquer Her Midlife Crisis // Strategies for Husbands, can help.  This behavior on the part of women can be sincere, but it can also be self-serving.  Either way, you need to handle things properly.  You need objective, assertive advice if your marriage is going to survive.

 

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