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If your spouse has broken your trust by having an affair, and especially if they are being uncooperative or ambivalent, it is time for you to stop crying, arguing or pleading with them to step up. Instead, start listening to this indispensable program. Whether it’s your starting point or your last ditch effort, it provides urgent, usable and at times unconventional advice that can pull you off the dead-end path an affair has put you on.

Has your husband said “I love you, but I’m not in love with you?” Is he self-indulgent, unfaithful or manipulative? If so, stop crying, questioning, and analyzing him. Stop assuming he will spontaneously “come around” on his own. Instead, start listening to this essential program. It provides clear and at times unconventional advice to help you manage this turmoil in a way that can regain his love and maintain your dignity.

If you feel like there are three people in your marriage, you need to stop worrying, speculating and having pointless arguments about it. Your spouse isn’t listening, and you’re only increasing the distance between you. Instead, start listening to this one-of-a-kind program. Its intensive guidance and step-by-step approach can help you navigate and overcome this problem before it develops into a full-scale affair.

Has your marriage lost its warmth? Have the interactions between you and your spouse become argumentative? Perhaps your or their unflattering personality traits are taking their toll. Or perhaps you simply feel like your spouse doesn’t see you anymore. This invaluable program can help you bring some passionate color to your fading marriage and show the world that you’re lovers, not fighters! 

An extramarital affair can be just as confusing and painful for the spouse who has made the mistake as it can be for the one who has been betrayed. If you need some insight and strategies to reconnect with your wounded spouse, and you want to understand more about yourself so you can work through your own choices and feelings, this no-nonsense program can help you figure it all out without patronizing or judging you.

Do you obsess about your marriage problems? Do you over-analyze your spouse? Do you let your emotions run the show, even to your own detriment? Of course you do – you’re human! This empowering program can help you get a grip on your thoughts and behaviors, and is often used to support people as they work through one of Debra’s larger programs (eg. Overcoming Infidelity, Conquer His Midlife Crisis).

From the first word to the last, I felt like you reached into the chaos of my marriage, sat me down and said, “Now listen up, sweetheart, this is what you’re going to do.” And yes, that has made a massive change – for the better – in the way my husband treats me and the choices he is making. I truly thank you. – Cara, Troy, AL

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“From problematic opposite-sex friendships to full-scale affairs, from midlife crises to a loss of intimacy, from arguing to apathy and marriages on the brink of divorce – I can handle it all. Book a phone session with me for fast, focused help. Every day I talk to people just like you from their couches, desks and cars. So get a good cup of coffee, find a private place to talk and let’s figure it out. One hour can make a big difference.” – Debra Macleod, B.A., LL.B.

 I can’t imagine finding a more forthright or useful course to help a person get through something like this and come out with a stronger marriage. You have a personal yet sometimes forceful tone, and I needed that. Loved the Q&A’s you included from clients, too.  All those little ‘extras’ (the lifelines, What NOT to Do!!!) were so helpful. – Anika, Sacramento, CA


After my third pointless appointment with a cheap counselor, I decided that my marriage and well-being were worth taking a chance on something different – your course. Wish I would’ve taken it from Day One (the day I discovered the affair) but better late than never. You are excellent at your job, Deb, and your course is amazing. – Ana, NYC

about debra

Debra Macleod, B.A., LL.B., is an international relationship author-expert and conflict specialist who offers a plainspoken alternative to couples counseling. Her Marriage SOS practice specializes in cases where one spouse is more motivated to move past an affair, inappropriate friendship, arguing or apathy. Debra’s online programs are second to none and have helped countless people reconnect with their spouses. In a world where truly usable relationship help is hard to find, it is worth your while to review her services.