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Debra Macleod, B.A., J.D., is a couples mediator and author whose books, programs, two decades of experience and “Fair, but Aware” approach have helped countless people move past infidelity, chronic arguing, midlife episodes and apathy to save their marriage and rebuild it on the foundation of a romantic partnership. Debra has served as an expert resource for media in the United States, Canada and worldwide. She offers a practical and plainspoken alternative to traditional couples counseling, and specializes in cases where one spouse may currently be more motivated to save the marriage.

debra’s books

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Most people spend the largest part of their adulthood slogging through committed relationships, and they need books like this. – Library Journal 

online programs

Debra Macleod’s online Marriage SOS “crash courses” tackle some of the toughest marriage problems head-on. They provide a wealth of content – audio, workbook, Q&A clips from clients and course-takers and more – to help you gather as much information as you can about your situation in the shortest time possible. No inconvenient office visits, no prying questions – just the insights and strategies you need to see, and handle, your problem from some important new angles.

 I can’t imagine finding a more forthright or useful course to help a person get through something like this and come out with a stronger marriage. You have a personal yet sometimes forceful tone, and I needed that. Loved the Q&A’s you included from clients, too.  All those little ‘extras’ (the lifelines, What NOT to Do!!!) were so helpful. – Anika, Sacramento, CA

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phone sessions

Whether you need some fresh insight with regard to your marriage problem, some new ideas to try, or just someone to act as a sounding board, my one-on-one telephone sessions offer a casual and low-stress way to feel like you’re not fighting this battle alone. Conversations are relaxed, and while frank, always as positive as possible. There is no awkward small talk in a stranger’s office, just a friendly chat from the privacy and comfort of your own couch, desk, car or favorite park bench. So grab a good cup of coffee and let’s talk. We’ll get to the heart of the matter as soon as we can. One hour can make a big difference. 

From the first word to the last, I felt like you reached into the chaos of my marriage, sat me down and said, “Now listen up, sweetheart, this is what you’re going to do.” And yes, that has made a massive change – for the better – in the way my husband treats me and the choices he is making. I truly thank you. – Cara, Troy, AL

10 rebuilding blocks

Affairs and the post-affair period can be an emotional and complex one. There may be all kinds of variables and circumstances to contend with. Yet as often as not, I see people overcomplicating the simple—but not necessarily easy—things that need to be done once an unfaithful spouse’s affair has been discovered. If you’re a spouse who has broken your partner’s trust, and if you truly want to rebuild, these 10 Rebuilding Blocks are a great way to start.

14 marriage lifelines

Do you feel like your marriage is starting to sink a bit?  Or maybe it isn’t sinking so much as floating around aimlessly.  Either way, check out these fourteen easy “lifelines” and see whether throwing one into your marriage every day for two weeks can help make things a little better.  


date nights

You’ve worked hard to save your marriage from broken trust, bickering, or even just sheer boredom. Why stop now? Keep the momentum going and the romance alive with regular ideas – from recipes and movie recommendations to surprise gifts and getaways, and everything in between – courtesy of Marriage SOS Date Nights. This series of fun articles can help your relationship stay afloat in all weather.

Were they in love with each other? I’m not sure. If they weren’t, it was getting there. She couldn’t go more than ten minutes without checking her phone, and if I said anything – look out. The fight was on and it was always my fault. I feel like I caught it just in time. The most surprising thing to me has been how ending that friendship has given us a new beginning as a couple. There’s a more mature and united feeling to “us” now. – Josh